tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3204928643804598043.post8031633037221678503..comments2024-01-28T21:51:36.288-08:00Comments on Adventures of a Yankee Girl: Wow. That's A Personal QuestionYankee Girlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08920111229743918567noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3204928643804598043.post-3758760996125636942009-08-30T15:19:00.007-07:002009-08-30T15:19:00.007-07:00I always want to reply "STFU, not long ago yo...I always want to reply "STFU, not long ago you were doing the same 'oh thank God my period came' dance the rest of us still boogie down to every month." Ugh!<br /><br /><br />http://www.DWHandbook.blogspot.com-Ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04509428911758727522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3204928643804598043.post-39360643698129395282009-08-30T15:17:36.680-07:002009-08-30T15:17:36.680-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.-Ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04509428911758727522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3204928643804598043.post-50016292522397549052009-08-27T15:04:41.779-07:002009-08-27T15:04:41.779-07:00Found you via Mandy's Life After 30. I've ...Found you via Mandy's Life After 30. I've been married for 5 years and have been fending off the "when are you having kids" and "when are you buying a house" question" for a long time. I love The Single Girls response of "Why do you ask?"!! That's what I'm using from now on! Great post!Cathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06961186041071578537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3204928643804598043.post-64641545424774702532009-08-27T08:32:09.980-07:002009-08-27T08:32:09.980-07:00The next questio is "when are you going to gi...The next questio is "when are you going to give them a brother or sister?"...it never ends! Eh, what can you do, really? They mean well.<br /><br />Visiting from SITS.Patti (@TheLoveJunkee)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01732605328006594727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3204928643804598043.post-26134720979432953702009-08-27T05:57:43.109-07:002009-08-27T05:57:43.109-07:00Again, I feel as if we share a brain, or at least ...Again, I feel as if we share a brain, or at least a closet in the Universe. :) <br /><br />I didn't get the babies question too much after we got married because I was still in school - but now that school will be over for me in about 16 weeks, that seems to be on everyone's mind. It's almost like "Ok, you're finished with this professional nonsense,when's it baby time?!?!" It's incredibly annoying and frustrating to me, I really don't like it at all - mainly for the reasons you suggest here. And I likely do have some damage from all the years I was so unhealthy, so it's just weird all the way around. <br /><br />Usually I just say "we're happy with the four legged kind right now" and leave it at that.... of course in my family you can't leave it at that, but I try... valiantly. <br /><br />Happy Thursday - it's almost Friday and I could NOT be happier!Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02301893849950404073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3204928643804598043.post-38787714924279522422009-08-26T04:10:50.536-07:002009-08-26T04:10:50.536-07:00GREAT post!! I wont even get into some of the stor...GREAT post!! I wont even get into some of the stories that have annoyed me through out the last year with the whole babies thing! <br /><br />We did however, get a card for the wedding from one of our cousins that said "now that your married, aren't you glad people will still asking you when are you getting married?" when you opened it, it said... so when are you having babies? it was actually pretty funny... then lolAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3204928643804598043.post-529991264673830732009-08-25T14:12:34.031-07:002009-08-25T14:12:34.031-07:00you know what i do when people ask me that? i say ...you know what i do when people ask me that? i say WHY DO PEOPLE ALWAYS ASK THAT?! i mean don't they have anything else to say like "wow i love your shoes" or "hey you're awesome". my gawd people! when it happens it happens. enough said. i may be more blunt than you so i understand if this is not an option. lol.bananas.https://www.blogger.com/profile/07374187632135297641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3204928643804598043.post-12613756422920043412009-08-25T13:26:51.436-07:002009-08-25T13:26:51.436-07:00Just saw your blog, and I laughed out loud... haha...Just saw your blog, and I laughed out loud... haha.. I am totally in then when is it your turn stage, grrrr... great stufF!!! xxxooDollfacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09696295829719465259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3204928643804598043.post-44911516718026048052009-08-25T13:16:27.681-07:002009-08-25T13:16:27.681-07:00The older I get the more I realize just how person...The older I get the more I realize just how personal it is to ask this question. And why do they care? How do we know that they have not been trying and trying which makes the question a really sad one to ask. <br /><br />Why do folks ask if that is your child? Why does it really matter? Do they need to know this info for a reason? Does it change something for them by knowing this? My friend has a black child. She is white. Of course, the kids is adopted. Dah!! Why do people ask??<br /><br />I imagine that your feeling pressure when they ask to conceive. Do not let them pressure you! Having a child is a huge commitment. I am glad that you realize this. I love my boys, but should have waited a few years to travel a little. There is never a good time to totally relax and to travel after kids.Hit 40https://www.blogger.com/profile/18043350255090631652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3204928643804598043.post-45139629384790457282009-08-25T12:09:29.423-07:002009-08-25T12:09:29.423-07:00Who knew that what's supposedly the best day o...Who knew that what's supposedly the best day of a woman's life would catalyze an era of social stress and flagrant disregard of her personal bubble? You go girl - when it happens, it happens, and you'll be as happy then as you are now.Amandasaurushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03820235298763152665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3204928643804598043.post-51771897657407283442009-08-25T08:11:40.406-07:002009-08-25T08:11:40.406-07:00When people asked "when are you going to get ...When people asked "when are you going to get married?" (when I was single) I would say "When I meet the right guy". When I was asked when I plan to have children, I would say "It's not up to me, that is G-d's choice". <br /><br />Asking a woman who is dating someone when she plans to get married is rude...Gwyneth Paltrow used to say (about Chris) "ask him". It's not like we decide and tell our men when to marry us, it's up to him to decide when to propose. <br /><br />If it was someone who was not close to me, I would pointedly reply "When I decide, you'll be the first to know" lol...they would usually laugh. I told one woman "as soon as we decide, I'll call you up and tell you" and she thought that was a great answer, and said "ok, i get it" and laughed.Penelopehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15718128591448417498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3204928643804598043.post-89282234493002094342009-08-25T06:45:41.821-07:002009-08-25T06:45:41.821-07:00I had this song in my head this morning and I thin...I had this song in my head this morning and I think it was because of this entry and your previous entry.<br /><br />Rod Stewart's Young Turks. I loved the instrumentals and the rhythm but the words I keep hearing today are:<br /><br />"Young hearts be free tonight.<br />Time is on your side.<br />Don't let them put you down, don't let 'em push you around,<br />Don't let em ever change your point of view."<br /><br />*Hugs*Intense Guyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08441598926026727682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3204928643804598043.post-73745513064944110102009-08-25T06:28:36.812-07:002009-08-25T06:28:36.812-07:00HAHA...This is SO true.
And we got asked all the...HAHA...This is SO true. <br /><br />And we got asked all the time. And now we get asked all of the time when are we having another. ONE DAY after we brought our son home, I was asked when I was having another. <br /><br />So I crafted an answer and only had the moxie to use it once:<br /><br />Them: So, when are you having anothe baby.<br /><br />Me: I don't know but we had a great time practicing all morning. <br /><br />They were aghast and then cracked up. It was good friends of ours so I dont know if I'd have the verve to say it to a complete stranger.JennyMachttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14594526663480442855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3204928643804598043.post-57975694423718029702009-08-24T19:19:10.064-07:002009-08-24T19:19:10.064-07:00So, when are you two gonna have a baby?????? ;-)
...So, when are you two gonna have a baby?????? ;-)<br /><br />Another interesting thing; if you only have one child - be prepared for people constantly asking why you are not having a second child and making it sound as if you are torturing your child by not giving them a brother or sister. This started around when VC turned one and went on for years...<br /><br />People's rudeness never ceases to amaze me. If they had taken the time to look, they would realize he is a happy, well-adjusted child, even without having siblings!!!!Carma Sezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01897159620671834070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3204928643804598043.post-55345764051370534212009-08-24T17:55:25.235-07:002009-08-24T17:55:25.235-07:00Stu and I have been dating for 2 years and are at ...Stu and I have been dating for 2 years and are at the stage where people are constantly asking when we're getting engaged/married. it is quite awkward but once i just replied with a question, "when are you going to stop asking awkward questions?" and it worked.trishiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00836141363242482379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3204928643804598043.post-73237809188423099882009-08-24T17:01:24.286-07:002009-08-24T17:01:24.286-07:00Nosey buggers. I vote to tell them to mind their o...Nosey buggers. I vote to tell them to mind their own beeswax but then they'll start asking when you're having the pole removed from your ass. Sadly, you have to smile your way through these intrusive questions because our society is a nosey one. <br />So... when ARE you going to have a baby?? ;)Meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15356775414049249350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3204928643804598043.post-66878093908011643402009-08-24T15:08:34.168-07:002009-08-24T15:08:34.168-07:00I always liked 'none of your fucking business....I always liked 'none of your fucking business.'...myself..yellowdoggrannyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14906624317290990109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3204928643804598043.post-23599316957355541982009-08-24T14:02:06.507-07:002009-08-24T14:02:06.507-07:00I was just married three months ago, and I'm a...I was just married three months ago, and I'm already getting that same question. People must think it's a reasonable conversation starter, or that as soon as you put a ring on your finger, you should start having babies! I need some time! I always answer with something very vague, like, "NOPE, not for a while yet!" <br /><br />Thanks for stopping by my blog today!! :)Samanthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17269321014984871748noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3204928643804598043.post-82392426213258513272009-08-24T12:00:43.939-07:002009-08-24T12:00:43.939-07:00Just answer their questions with a question - &quo...Just answer their questions with a question - "When was your last bowel movement? Oh, I'm sorry! Was that too personal for you? Well that's how I feel about your question." :-) <br /><br />Or you can just tell people the line I used. I was married four years before I even thought about having a kid. I told people - "we're getting a dog and we'll see how that works out!" :-)Mandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03345244543899178740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3204928643804598043.post-63579653361996593202009-08-24T11:22:52.258-07:002009-08-24T11:22:52.258-07:00Half the time the thoughtless questions are from p...Half the time the thoughtless questions are from people that are only half (or less) involved in your world and just need something...anything for conversation starter material.<br /><br />Shame they don't stick to the weather or the ball team.<br /><br />Nicely written entry. :)Intense Guyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08441598926026727682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3204928643804598043.post-87691072747109973892009-08-24T10:42:44.642-07:002009-08-24T10:42:44.642-07:00I completely agree!!! it's one of my pet peeve...I completely agree!!! it's one of my pet peeves! <br /><br />I started just telling people the truth which apparently nosy people can't handle...I just say "I'd like to have kids, but the doctor says I don't ovulate so no eggies equals no babies unless I take some pills with awful side effects." If people are going to be rude and ask me such a question demanding to know why I haven't had babies yet, they're going to get a blunt 'n rude answer back!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3204928643804598043.post-34913401930974117272009-08-24T10:13:09.150-07:002009-08-24T10:13:09.150-07:00And babies lead to even MORE personal questions.
...And babies lead to even MORE personal questions.<br /><br />PET PEEVE ALERT.<br /><br />Expressionless face + raised eyebrows and an innocent "Why do you ask?" has worked well for me. Catches people off guard as they consider the reasoning for their own nosiness, without making you look rude.<br /><br />'Boundaries' needs to be a required class in all 4 years of high school. Forget Algebra and Public Speaking. <br /><br />BOUNDARIES.Michelle@DomesticationoftheSingleGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17875515103822677095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3204928643804598043.post-48014417013614430122009-08-24T10:01:49.721-07:002009-08-24T10:01:49.721-07:00I'm in total agreement with you. That is one q...I'm in total agreement with you. That is one question I'm not looking forward to when we get married next year, especially since we don't know if we even want to have children.<br /><br />The other thing I think will bother me is if/when we get pregnant, all the people who think it's okay to pat/rub/etc. a pregnant woman's belly. If you've never seen me in me without makeup and in my pajamas, you probably don't know me well enough to be touching my belly.Aubreyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01771879932227982741noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3204928643804598043.post-39063524392365644482009-08-24T09:43:30.417-07:002009-08-24T09:43:30.417-07:00I think people should respect others privacy and s...I think people should respect others privacy and space. Tell these family/friends you will speed up the process if they agree to show up every morning for the 3AM feeding and pay for the first four years of college.<br /><br />Smooches,<br />Sassy ChicaSassy Chicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13311948981071615362noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3204928643804598043.post-89500729670828849112009-08-24T09:36:11.853-07:002009-08-24T09:36:11.853-07:00And once you get pregnant, people, and I mean comp...And once you get pregnant, people, and I mean complete strangers, ask if you are going to breast feed.<br /><br />It never ends.<br /><br />xxVodka Logichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13870805969416858519noreply@blogger.com